— Paramhansa Yogananda Most of us encounter aggressive, intimidating, or controlling personalities at some points in our lives.
Do they belittle you, or embarrass you in front of others.Do they treat you like a child, or constantly try to put you in your place?The less reactive you are to provocations, the more you can use your better judgment to handle the challenge.When you feel upset with or challenged by someone, before you say or do something you might later regret, take a deep breath and count slowly to ten.Below are seven keys to dealing with aggressive individuals, excerpted from my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Aggressive, Intimidating, & Controlling People.” Not all of these ideas may apply to your particular situation. By doing so, they create an advantage over you, from which they can exploit your weakness.
The first rule of thumb in the face of a difficult person is to keep your cool.If you think workplace bullying doesn’t affect some of your employees, you're mistaken. Rarely can bullying be identified based on one action, but rather a pattern of actions over a long period of time. Rather, it’s often subtle, slow, and insidious mistreatment that passes over the radar screen.I need to know what to do as I am being disciplined from my head office and I could loose my job, as last year I was bullied by my manager and she wants me out of work as I did not do what she wanted me to do.I feel she has got this girl to say I intimidated her as the girl is polish and her English is very poor and I feel it is my manager who has put her up to this. Similarly, I introduced myself and asked a bit about her and her work. When I shared that he does come across as a little aloof he was surprised as it is the opposite of his intention.