Four weeks ago today, I met a great guy through my personal adweve been seeing each other a couple of times a week, swapping cute, lighthearted, and linguistically quirky e-mails during the workday, and spending hours and hours talking about all sorts of things, music, politics, life, relationships, work, pretty much everything under the sun.
This has left you with an inconclusive sense of who you really are.Your selfhood is still in the state of evolving and is easily influenced.Have you ever been in long term relationship with a ACo A [Adult Child of Alcoholic] Long story short. Which is why you were specific of the red flags and negatives, you just wanted to confirm with us, what you thought about her.the girl I'm dating revealed that she was diagnosed with this. You mention her positive potential to her being a mother/wife - apply the negatives you listed to her role as a mother and/or wife. Self sabotage, DEPRESSION, and abandonment issues are just a few of the major highlights I could see in an LTR, marriage, or child bearing.Well, Monday arrived, and I forwarded him an e-mail inviting him to a friends picnic on Labor Day, and he said hed love to go IF he didnt go out of town this weekend on his motorcycle.
Oh well, I was a bit bummed at the trip plans, but didnt make a big deal of it; just said that regardless of the trip, maybe we could catch a movie later in the week?
Once I realized that I wasn’t alone, I slowly opened my mind to the possibility that maybe what I feared made me different from other people, really wasn’t all that bad.
This realization inspired me to learn everything I possibly could about addiction.
Acts like a well mannered lady so it's pleasure to go out with her. Very resourceful and streetwise so to speak, can handle people and tough random everyday situations. She's trying to do something about it but it requires a lot of support and care from me to work on it. I think you'd be on a pathway of destruction thinking about LTR'ing her.
Has "no matter what" attitude, can deal with anything to get shit done if she wants. She's aware that she tends to self-sabotage her life and relations with others but that understanding alone does not eliminate the problem at all. Let's check: I don't know if it's ACo A trait exclusively but it feels like to her everything is either good or bad. I can't answer your first question XXL, I've never been with a woman who was diagnosed with this.
Not different as in I had some amazing athletic ability or that I was blessed with a brand of intelligence that made me a shoo-in for Harvard but different in that I came from an alcoholic family that most people I knew couldn't relate to.